Living Your Own Version of Personal Happiness

Living Your Own Version of Personal Happiness Have you noticed how often someone else is telling you what it takes to be happy?   Telling you the who, what, when, where, and even why about what you need to do to attain personal happiness?   How many happiness gurus have you listened to?   How many times have you spent weeks, months, or even years pursuing their plan of happiness for you? Maybe you should stop. With over seven billion people on the planet, surely there isnt a one-size-fits-all answer to what makes us happy. Can you look back and see frustrated efforts chasing someone elses grand happiness plan? A few years back, as part of a business I had, I frequently found myself in the homes of Hispanic families.   In almost every home, I couldnt help but notice a calm and contented energy.   I noticed because it was foreign to my distinctly white middle class upbringing and life experience.   In these usually modest homes, there was a very obviously different set of priorities.   And they were happy.   Contented.   Something besides just having more money, more stuff, was driving their happiness. Stop The Madness! If you think Im going to lay out the keys to happiness, youre going to be disappointed. Because I cant tell you what will make you happy.   Only you can do that. What I can do is share my observations of what seems to be common elements in most peoples perspective on happiness.   From those Hispanic homes to the life stories Ive personally listened to from those at the end of their life, heres what Ive noticed. Possessions Measure your possessions only as they, and the efforts you expend to attain them, provide an acceptable return.   If your efforts are not paying dividends of happiness, reconsider your priorities.   Like everything in life, the law of diminishing returns will devalue the attainment of more stuff at an ever-increasing rate.   Figure out what your own definition of enough is, and let that be   your guide. Relationships Im sure youve heard that the only thing you really possess at the end of life is your relationships.   However true that may be, what is indisputable is the truth that at your last breath, relationships are all youll be treasuring.   Theyre the only thing youll be missing as you contemplate leaving this world. Good Will If you think that good will is a part of a business evaluation or the charitable thrift store down the road, you may want to spend next weekend reading The Power of Reputation.   But good will is much more than just reputation, and yet quite simple to relate. Think of someone whose image conjures up pleasant memories and feelings.   Theres probably a smile on your face as you think about how that person has shown up in your life or how theyve inspired you.   They live an admirable life of teaching, sharing, caring, and making the world a better place.   Theyre dependable, reliable, and honest.   They are purveyors of good will. Now think of someone quite the opposite.   Thoughts of this person may cause reactions of anxiety, distrust, frustration, or even disgust.   You dont aspire to be like them.   The biblical tenet you will know them by their fruits applies, and their lives are typically full of conflict and upset. Adopting a policy of cultivating good will pays dividends throughout ones life, and after.   No matter how you define your personal happiness, good will and reputation will enhance it. What Path To Personal Happiness Are You On? Too often, it seems, we get so busy in the business of life and the elusive pursuit of happiness that we forget to check the map to see where were headed.   Maybe its time to ask yourself How happy am I, right now? Am I on a path that allows and creates happiness by my own definition, or on a path someone else has designed? Does my path lead to increasing happiness, or perpetual lack of enough and longing for more? Need More Insights on Happiness?   Check These Out . . . Reading is to the mind what exercise is to the body.   Joseph Addison I read to plant new seeds in my mind and soul.   And to feed and water those already there.   Heres a couple of recently published books that Im sure will help you find more happiness in your own life. Mastering Affluence Theres an old song titled Whats It All About.   What really matters?   Is the whole of life just a roll of the dice? Imagine your six-sided dice, not numbered but with each side reading an element of the totality of human riches.   All possible outcomes are contained on your dice.   But you only get a limited number of rolls.   And the outcome of each roll is all up to you. Author Carol Tuttles Mastering Affluence shows you how to choose your own happiness by addressing and balancing your life in terms of   Spiritual Mental Emotional Physical Financial Relationships She shows you how to replace the struggle to find joy and happiness with the ease of allowing yourself to choose your own happiness.    Your dice, your life.   Youll be truly affluent, truly happy when the grand plan is all yours.   The book is due out shortly, and is one worthy of adding to your reading list. The Burn Zone If you are a seeker of truth, on a quest for the meaning of life, or just chasing the elusive butterfly of happiness, youve got to pick up a copy of Renee Linnells The Burn Zone. From gurus trying to implant their version of happiness in you, to the moments filled with self-doubt, the story of her journey to finding and accepting herself and her own truth will resonate with you.   Renee gives you a birds eye view, and youll find yourself embracing yourself and your version of happiness in a whole new way.